“But I want to play with you!” “No! Only Esther and Tess are allowed to play!”
Some wounds from childhood cut deep enough to stay with us for years. Rejection is a powerful wound that leaves scars far into adulthood.
If it’s not fun for one, the game is done.
When we see our children playing at the expense of another, we must train them up in God’s love. If rejection goes unchecked, the wounds carry far into adulthood.
We see a lot of this in the first church. The Jews were proud of their heritage as their unique lifestyle set them apart from others. When anyone outside of this heritage accepted the gospel they were made to jump through hoops to be a part of the “in crowd” of Jewish Christians. This behavior created painful barriers to new believers and became a source of great division in God’s family.
Just as it wrecked havoc in the first Church, it will wreck havoc in our homes. The wounds of rejection grow to beliefs about personal value and love. It changes the way we see ourselves. For a child it becomes a part of the fabric of his or her identity.
God’s family is full of people from different backgrounds, languages, cultures and values and he bonds them together in the unity of love. When it comes to the blended and diverse families, there is none larger than the family of God. We find in His word the key to bringing our family into unity. He even made it into a family creed:
There is one body and one Spirit—just as you were called to the one hope that belongs to your call—one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.
What is your family creed that binds you together? When divisions arise and rejection slithers into your home, do you have a truth that you speak over your children to keep them rooted and grounded in love?
Read Ephesians 4:1-16, 1 Corinthians 12:12-31 and pray Ephesians 3:14-19.
Father, give my family a spirit of unity and love. Lead us to be “rooted and grounded in love” that we may all know “with strength to comprehend…what is the breadth and length and height and depth and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge.” Let your love permeate and define our family so that rejection and division have no place in our home.